Everyone has a different approach to dating. Some people are better at approaching people than others. Not everyone can approach a potential partner with a witty remark and actually get them interested in dating you. Similarly, not everyone knows how to keep their partner interested over the long term.
If you want to make sure that your new relationship is going to last, there are some things that you should avoid doing at all costs. Here are 10 things that will turn your partner off when you first start dating:
- Being too clingy
One of the most common mistakes people make when they are first starting to date someone is being too clingy and letting their desire for a serious relationship take over way too quickly. If you spend every waking moment together and start talking about moving in together after only a few dates, it is probably going to be too much for your new partner to handle.
- Being too reserved
On the other hand, you don't want to be so detached that it seems like you're not really interested in being with your new partner. If you only ever text them and never meet up in person, it is going to come across as if you're trying to back out of the relationship without actually having to break up with them. You need a balance.
- Showing off with your friends
When you try to show off with your friends, it usually never looks good. If you try too hard to impress, it will make people wonder why you are so needy. It is okay to show off every once in a while, but try not to overdo it because it will just look goofy.
- Telling lies
Lying about who you are is one of the worst things that you can do. People dislike being lied to and they will start questioning everything that comes out of your mouth after they find out that you have been lying. Don't ever lie because it will cause problems in the future.
- Being rude
Being rude is a huge turnoff for most people because no one likes being around someone who treats others poorly. If you want to attract someone, you need to be nice and treat them with respect. No one wants to be around a jerk all the time, so just don't be one if you want to find love.
- You are always late.
If being on time is something not in your vocabulary, then you have a problem. This shows that you are not responsible enough and this can be one of the reasons why he/she may stop fancying you once they find out that they can’t rely on you all the time. In addition, showing up late can also show that they are not important to you and it can hurt their feelings because they will think that their time isn’t important to you as well.
- Asking questions about the ex
We are not saying that you have to let your partner do anything they want in a relationship. However, asking questions like “How many people have you dated before me?” or “Do you still have feelings for your ex?” can be overwhelming, especially if they are still getting to know you. These questions will make them think that you are trying to control them and their past, which will make them uncomfortable. You should wait until the relationship is more serious before you start asking these questions.
- Criticizing their appearance
Criticizing someone's weight. This can be one of the most common offenses, if not the most common one. Don't be judgmental or think more highly of yourself because you don't have to put on weight. If your partner is overweight, accepting it will help him or her feel more secure about their body and less ashamed of it.
Criticizing someone's skin tone. Everyone has different preferences when it comes to skin color, but there are some things that are universally considered off-limits: “You're too dark,” “Your skin is too light.” The first comment implies that what your partner lacks is more important than anything they might have going for them; the second one makes it sound like they should have chosen a different shade of skin (which is generally frowned upon).
- Asking awkward questions like ‘how old are you?’ and ’how much do you earn?’
It's tempting to want to know everything about the person you're on a date with, but asking deep questions right off the bat can be a quick way to make your date feel uncomfortable.
Instead, it's better to find common ground and ask gentler questions.
A relationship expert has revealed that there are certain questions people shouldn't ask on a first date as it may come across as ‘intimidating'.
- Not seeming interested in what they have to say
If you are just starting a relationship, it is important to consider the effect of your actions on your partner. As you get closer and more comfortable with each other, you will find that certain quirks and bad habits become more obvious. One of these things is not seeming interested in what they have to say.
Asking questions about the other person's life helps show that you are interested in them as a person. If you aren't asking many questions, then it may appear to them that you only want to talk about yourself or don't care enough to find things out about them.
It can be difficult for some people to ask questions about their new partner for fear of seeming too pushy or not knowing what to ask. However, this does not mean that such people don't care! They may simply be nervous or shy around new people in general.
Another reason why someone might not seem interested is if they're still getting used to being around someone else all day long again after having been single for a while (or vice versa). This can happen even when there isn’t anything wrong with either person individually – just different expectations on both sides which lead them into conflict over who should do what during their time together.”
No matter how good of a person you are, there will always be things that drive your partner crazy about you. But before the whole relationship goes downhill, here is a checklist for the top ten things to avoid when you start dating.