Relationships are a lot of work. And if you don’t know what you’re getting yourself into, it can be difficult to keep going. It’s one thing to make the decision to enter a relationship and another to actually make it work.
To help you avoid making mistakes that are common in relationships, here are 8 things most people don’t know about relationships:
- Relationships need space and time
If you want to maintain a healthy relationship with your partner or any family member, then you should give them space and time. This means that you should continue with your own daily activities and hobbies if you have any. Do not isolate yourself from your friends and family for the sake of your relationship. If you do this then it can cause resentment and even lead to divorce.
- Relationships need strength
Some people tend to ignore the problems they experience in their relationships thinking that they will go away by themselves but this is not true. For example, if your husband or wife has anger issues, then you should try to identify the main reason why he or she gets angry all the time and try to solve it. The same applies if you have problems with your children or parents, always try to find out why they are acting in certain ways so as to solve the problem before it becomes worse
- There are more than one type of soul, who can connect with you on a soul level.
“In this physical world, there are infinite types of souls. There is no such thing as the one for any of us. If you think he’s the one, he’s not. But if you feel like you have known him forever, then he might be a type of soul that connects with yours in this lifetime.
- Arguing is good
One of the things most people don't know about relationships is that arguing is good.
Argue what you will, but you better not disagree with me when I say that arguing is good.
It's also healthy.
You and your partner will never agree on everything, and it's nearly impossible to go through life without expressing differences in opinion. The only problem is how you express your differences.
When arguments turn into fights, they can be detrimental to a relationship. Fights are simply arguments that have gotten out of control. They happen when you allow yourself to get too emotional, forget about what's important and lose sight of the big picture. And once a fight gets started, it can be difficult to get back on track because someone has likely been hurt.
Arguments, however, are different from fights. Arguments are controlled disagreements that help couples work through problems by negotiating and compromising. Arguments may make you feel uncomfortable in the moment, but the results are always beneficial for your relationship in the long run.
- Sometimes, space is a good thing
Sometimes, space is a good thing. Too much time spent together can make you feel like roommates, or even like you’re in a codependent relationship. Not enough time spent together and you might feel like your partner isn’t there for you when times get tough.
This is why having some boundaries can be incredibly healthy for an ongoing relationship. And when you're deciding how often to see each other, it's really important to consider what works for both of you — not just one person's needs or preferences. If they're being a jerk about it, that's another story. But if they're simply not interested in hanging out three nights a week but instead would rather have dinner every other day and spend the rest of their time with other friends, that's totally reasonable.
The best relationships tend to involve two people who are just as comfortable being together as they are apart — and who each have satisfying lives outside the relationship.
- It’s okay to spend time with your friends
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to stop seeing your friends. They were there before you met your partner and you need to keep them in your life.
So being in a relationship means that you don’t have to hang out with your friends anymore? Of course not!
You should still spend time with your friends as much as possible, even when you are dating someone.
It doesn’t mean that you can’t be together with your partner, it just means that you need to keep the relationships you had before intact.
If they are important to you and they like the person you are dating, then they will support your decision and continue hanging out with both of you.
- We can change a lot in 10 years, but some things stay the same — including our feelings toward our partners.
What most people don’t know about Relationships is that We can change a lot in 10 years, but some things stay the same — including our feelings toward our partners.
NPR’s social science correspondent Shankar Vedantam and Alix Spiegel, host of the Hidden Brain podcast, recently spoke with social psychologist Amy Cuddy about her research on long-term relationships.
A few decades ago, psychologists Arthur Aron and Elaine Aron asked couples who had been married for more than 20 years to recall how they felt when they first met their partner. The couples were also asked to write down their current feelings toward their partner.
The researchers then looked at the responses from the couples after five years, and again after 10 years. The study showed that those who reported feeling more attracted to their spouse over time were more likely to report higher marital satisfaction.
One of the things that I find really interesting about this study is it's showing us that what you can do for your relationship is not just think about how you feel about your partner today, Cuddy says, but also think about how you felt in the beginning and go back there.
- You can’t make someone love you
Things most people don’t know about Relationships is that You can’t make someone love you. What you can do is constantly be there for him/her and when they are ready, they will open up to you and give you the chance to make them happy.
Love is not something that you can force on someone. It should come naturally, but making an effort to make someone feel loved and wanted is always worth it.
Some relationships are meant to last forever and some are not. The ones that aren’t meant to last forever shouldn’t hurt as much as they do.
No relationship is perfect, but if you can find someone who will love you just like I love you, then keep them forever because they are special.
Unlike what most people think, relationships are not a walk in the park. They take a lot of effort, hard work, and most importantly commitment. Relationships are like a tree. The greatest part of the tree is the roots that keep it grounded, in a healthy state. When it comes to relationships, there is no giving up—as long as you have good communication and you’re willing to put in the work.