The ultimate guide to do’s and don’ts for a first date
Whether you are new to the dating scene or you are recently out of a long-term relationship and feel a little out of practice, going on a first date with somebody new is daunting! Fortunately, we have a handy list of do’s and don’ts to help you prepare. Here’s everything you need to know…
Don’t get carried away
It’s always exciting to meet somebody new but try not to get ahead of yourself. Set realistic expectations and relax. If they turn out to be a douche, then you won’t feel too disappointed and if they turn out to be the one it will be a lovely surprise.
Do be open to creative date suggestions
You don’t have to stick to the typical drinks at a bar / lunch date format. Leave yourself open to creative date ideas – if someone suggests a home cooked meal or a rock-climbing session go for it! The fact that they’re thinking outside the box is typically a good sign.
Don’t get too drunk
It’s OK to have a few drinks on a first date but you don’t want to lose all inhibitions and make a fool of yourself. Then again, if you are both having an amazing time in each other’s company and that’s the way the night leads then roll with it. Just aim to keep control of yourself.
Do wear sexy underwear
Even if you’re not one to have sex on a first date, wear some sexy underwear anyway. Not only will it fill you with confidence and make you feel amazing, if in the event that you do get down and dirty you’ll be prepared!
Don’t question his height
Asking a prospective date personal questions about their physical attributes is not only rude but just poor form in general. Imagine if a guy asked you how much you weigh? Show some decorum. If they’re not tall enough for you, you don’t have to go on date number two.
Do discuss issues that matter to you
A first date is a good time to figure out whether you are both compatible so feel free to get deep and talk about issues that matter to you. Worst case scenario is you find out that you are on a date with a bigot, best care scenario you realise that you are on a date with someone who truly understands you.
Don’t get too personal too soon
It’s good to get deep and be honest but try not to reveal too much too soon. Perhaps save the topic of your thriving collection of vibrating sex toys for the second date.
Do listen to what the other person has to say
Put your phone away and be present with the person you are on a date with. Listen to what they have to say, give them plenty of eye contact, and really engage with them in the moment.
Don’t turn the date into a therapy session
Be positive! Don’t start moaning about your ex-boyfriend or how much you hate men. You are on a date with a prospective partner, not your therapist.
Do break the rules
Remember that whilst there are certainly do’s and don’ts for a first date, it’s also OK to break the rules. You need to be as true to yourself as possible and just let the date take you in whatever direction it takes you. Sticking to rules with rigidity is a great way of missing out on opportunities.
The most important thing of all is to be safe. Let your friends know where you are going and who you are going with. Never feel pressured into doing anything you don’t want to. Enjoy yourself and remember to set realistic expectations – not every date is destined for love.
